Coping with the Anxiety Caused by Infertility
Infertility is an issue being encountered by many couples around the globe. Its adverse effects have been experienced by couples across different cultures from different societies. These adverse effects may afflict an infertile individual in almost all aspects of his well-being. The good news is that the advancements in science and medicine have provided enormous help to people craving for parenthood. However, it is also ironic to note that these varied treatments for infertility are just as stressful. Although there is little evidence that infertility anxiety negatively affects fertility treatment, one must find ways to better cope with anxiety. This is to avoid anxiety caused by infertility escalating into depression and other mental illnesses.
The following are some of the ways to be able to cope with anxiety of infertility:
Remember that nobody’s life is perfect.
This goes to say that you have to give up the belief that once you have a child your marriage or life would be perfect. Look around you. There are plenty of couples who have their own kids who are also still living a rollercoaster life. It would also be tantamount to say that your life and marriage can still be almost perfect even without a child. Most of all, you have to remember that having a child is not the ONLY key to a happy marriage.
Take the time to communicate with other couples who are also facing infertility issues.
Stop wallowing yourself in anxiety. Your social life does not have to end just because you cannot conceive a child. Get out and ask for some tips which have been proven to work for some couples. Ask for an advice and learn different perspectives. This is to avoid yourself from being preoccupied with feelings of depression and anxiety.
Keep in mind that you cannot control everything in life.
Learn to accept the fact that some things in life are way beyond your control. You cannot control things such as sperm count, motility and date of birth. Stop trying to gain control everything about your married life. But, rather bear in mind that everything happens for a good reason. Furthermore, remember that you can control your emotions from swallowing your entire being like a monster.
You are not the only one who suffers from infertility.
There are millions of people all over the world who are facing infertility issues. Therefore, you must put an end to your self-pity. Stop punishing yourself from being incapable of conceiving or bearing a child. Do not be unfair to yourself by thinking that there is something wrong with you and that you cannot be happy anymore.
Live with an open heart and mind.
Some people who are experiencing anxiety have set their own selves apart from anybody else. They have allowed themselves to drown in anxiety and depression. But, this should not happen to you. Open your heart and your mind and let those opportunities come flooding back to you. Your life does not have to get stuck just because you are facing infertility issues.
Maintain an open communication with your partner.
Be honest and open to your partner about your feelings. Having someone to talk to and to express one’s emotions is one great way to relieve you from anxiety. Just make sure to avoid expressing emotions in a provocative manner. Otherwise, you will only be making matters worse between you and your partner.
Trying to live a happy life without a child may seem very difficult, at first. But, as you continue to live your life despite your infertility you will realize that being happy is indeed a matter of choice. You definitely have so many reasons in life to be happy about. But, if you still prefer to be sad about what you do not have you could be missing so much in life. The road to contentment always starts with being happy with what you have.
About the Author:
Ryan Rivera used to suffer from anxiety for seven years. He now dedicates his life in helping other anxiety sufferer through his writings. You can read more of his articles at Calm Clinic.
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